A difficult aspect of being a New Jersey Divorce Attorney is when children become affected by the demise of the family unit. Even worse is when one or both parents are unable to co-parent during or after their New Jersey divorce or “break up.” At worst, the parents cannot even agree on basic, day-to-day decisions regarding their children. The good news is that in recent years, New Jersey Family lawyers and judges have enjoyed great success by appointing Parenting Coordinator. Let’s explore.
Pursuant to the New Jersey Parenting Coordinator Pilot Program Guidelines, a parenting coordinator is “a qualified neutral person appointed by the court, or agreed to by the parties, to facilitate the resolution of day to day parenting issues that frequently arise within the context of family life when parties are separated.” The court will usually appoint a parenting coordinator in cases where kids are minors and their parents are incapable of sticking to their original child custody and parenting time agreement. As a New Jersey divorce lawyer, I frequently refer to the case of Shakoor v. Mohammadi to help explain how this works.
Well, it depends. The child custody lawyers at our New Jersey based law firm understand that both parents have a fundamental right to have visitation (a/k/a parenting time) with their child. Having said that, the focus of our attorneys and the judges of New Jersey Family Courts is always on the best interest of the child.
The goal of the New Jersey Child Support Guidelines was to establish a level of fairness and uniformity when a Court awards child support in this state. As a New Jersey Family Attorney, I know that the Guidelines were also developed based on one parent being designated as the “Parent of Primary Residence” and the other parent as the “Parent of Alternate Residence”. However, as an equal parenting time schedule between divorced couples becomes more common (as opposed to the more traditional “every other weekend” schedule), the designation of Parent of Primary Residence vs. Parent of Alternate residence becomes less applicable for purposes of establishing an appropriate New Jersey child support award. Very often, this designation is made strictly for school enrollment purposes if say one parent will be living outside the school district, despite exercising equal parenting time.
Under New Jersey law in a case wherein one parent refuses to cooperate with reunification therapy that has been ordered by a judge of the Family Part, Superior Court of New Jersey, your attorney may seek financial sanctions against the intentionally non-complaint parent. A court often orders reunification therapy when parental alienation (i.e., when one parent is found to be purposefully “brain-washing” their child’s affection towards their other parent) comes to light. The lawyers at our law firm in East Brunswick, New Jersey are always aggressive in any child custody case in which our client is the victim of parental alienation as it is not only against our client’s interest but also not in the best interests of the child. The following is an analysis of a recent case discussing the consequences a parent may face if they fail to comply with court orders or are involved in ongoing parental alienation of the other parent.
In Brinkrode v. Brinkrode, the parties were married and had one child born of the marriage. The parties divorced in 2013 and agreed to share joint legal custody of their child, meaning the parties would make all important decisions together regarding the child’s care. The parties also agreed that the ex-wife would be the parent of primary residence, meaning the child would live with the ex-wife the majority of the time.
After the divorce, the ex-wife began alienating the parties’ child from the ex-husband. The ex-husband proved alienation in court and the Superior Court of New Jersey Family Part ordered that the parties participate in reunification therapy, which is meant to reunite an alienated parent with his or her child. The court ordered that the therapy be held with a licensed social worker. The ex-wife, however, refused to assist with the therapy and declined to sign the retainer agreement required by the therapist. Therefore, the trial judge entered an order on June 4, 2014 to compel the ex-wife to sign the therapist’s retainer agreement. The enforcement order also required the ex-wife to split and pay the therapy costs with her ex-husband within three weeks. The order stated that if the ex-wife failed to comply, she would be charged five dollars per day until she signed the retainer and paid the therapy fees.
The ex-wife did not comply with the trial judge’s order despite the possibility of sanctions. Due to the ex-wife’s failure to comply, the ex-husband’s relationship with the parties’ child continued to decline. On August 27, 2014, the judge enforced the sanctions ordered in the June 4, 2014 order. The judge also told the ex-wife that the sanctions would increase to $100 per day if she continued to fail to comply with the orders and continued to be uncooperative with the therapy. Additionally, the ex-wife was now not informing the ex-husband of developments in the child’s life, which she was required to do on a weekly basis. The trial judge warned the ex-wife that if she continued to defy her obligation to keep the ex-husband informed, she would be faced with sanctions of $250 per day. The judge also awarded the ex-husband attorney’s fees.
Despite the threat and enforcement of sanctions, the ex-wife continued to defy the order. The judge entered another enforcement order on October 10, 2014, and increased the ex-wife’s sanctions to $250 per day and awarded the ex-husband additional attorney’s fees. The judge allowed the ex-husband to collect the sanctions by reducing the amount out of the ex-husband’s monthly alimony payment to the ex-wife by the amount that the ex-wife owed in sanctions. The ex-wife then filed a motion with the court for reconsideration of the judge’s order to enforce sanctions. On January 16, 2015, the judge denied the ex-wife’s motion for reconsideration of the orders.
On appeal, the ex-wife argued that the sanctions ordered by the trial judge were unfairly burdensome and that the judge ordered the sanctions without considering the ex-wife’s ability to pay. Also, the ex-wife argued that before the judge ordered sanctions, he should have held a plenary hearing. A plenary hearing is held when there are issues of material fact and the parties’ testimony is needed to resolve the issues. The New Jersey Appellate Division agreed with the trial judge and affirmed the trial judge’s decision.
The Appellate Division stated that its review of the trial judge’s decision to impose sanctions is under an abuse of discretion standard. The Appellate Division found that the ex-wife purposely and continuously refused to comply with the orders to cooperate with the reunification therapy, which was necessary for the ex-husband to restart parenting time with the parties’ child. Furthermore, the Appellate Division stated that the trial judge gave the ex-wife ample time to comply with the orders and started out with small monetary sanctions. The Appellate Division noted that the trial judge warned the ex-wife before imposing larger sanctions, but it quickly became clear that the ex-wife was not going to comply. The Appellate Division also stated that a plenary hearing was not necessary in this case because there was no dispute of material fact, especially since the ex-wife voluntarily disclosed that she did not comply with the trial judge’s orders.
Lastly, the Appellate Division stated that the trial judge considered the ex-wife’s ability to pay the daily sanctions and allowed the sanctions to be offset by the ex-husband’s alimony obligation. The Appellate Division noted that the trial judge’s method was a practical way to deal with the ex-wife’s failure to comply. Therefore, the Appellate Division affirmed the decision of the trial court.
Our law firm is here to help you or a loved one if they a facing a situation of parental alienation.
As a New Jersey Divorce Attorney for nearly 20 years, I certainly appreciate the dramatic emotional elements of what my client’s are going through. After we chat about the causes of the demise of their marriage, I then explain that it is time to “put my lawyer hat on.” Then, I politely explain that ultimately their divorce comes down to children and finances. Of course, as a NJ Custody Attorney, we primarily focus on the children’s well being including support and other financial concerns.
This is a red-hot issue for New Jersey lawyers, judges and child custody experts alike. This is because New Jersey law has recently changed the legal standard regarding a parent’s ability to move from New Jersey to another state. Previously, a judge of a New Jersey Family Court would consider the parent was moving away “in good faith” and is it in the best interest of the child. However due to the following new case that they attorneys at our law firm have studied with a close eye, the new stand is only whether or not the move would be in the best interests of the child. [Read more…]
First of all here in New Jersey, the child custody lawyers at our law firm understand that every child deserves to have weekend (i.e., “fun”) time with each parent, respectively. Furthermore, it is important for both parents, absent extreme circumstances, to have weekend time with their child. All told, if one parent does not have any weekend time with school aged children then they become the “bad cop” during the school week while the other parent gets to be the “good cop” on fun weekends. This lawyer’s following analysis of a recent New Jersey appeal demonstrates how these attorneys made their respective arguments as to the issue. [Read more…]
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No. As seasoned parenting time lawyers, the attorneys at our law firm appreciate that while most New Jersey Family Court judges prefer to grant a parent the right of first refusal, the court’s decision shall always be driven by the best interests of the child. In other words, if one parent cannot be with the child and the other parent is available, then that parent should have the right to spend time with their child before the child went to a third party such as a babysitter or daycare. However, if a New Jersey family Court finds that the child is not best served in such a scenario, the right of first refusal shall be denied. Of significant note, if the child’s parents are constantly fighting, this could cause a judge to limit their interactions. The case below contains similar facts as well as the court’s reasoning for denying the argument of right of first refusal in this instance. [Read more…]